What gets me is that when another child dies, I literally mourn again - for the mother who just lost her child, for me, for Emma. It's mourning, but different. It's a compassion and an empathy that I feel for the grieving mother. It's knowing exactly where she is at that moment - the sorrow that sweeps over her, the longing to hold her child again. My heart aches, literally aches like it did when Emma first died. I feel it all over again, but with a newness - a tenderness to take that other mama in my arms and just cry with her - as two moms united by a single, solitary event in our lives that forever create a bond that cannot be expressed in any other way. Words cannot express the sorrow I feel the way tears and hugs can.
So, for all of you moms out there that have lost a child, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, cancer, or some other tragedy - please know that you are loved. I'm sending you cyber hugs from one mama to another.